The Importance of Friendship
About 4 years ago I went through a pretty tough time in my life, coming out of such a horrible, 2 year toxic relationship. I was in such a state after being so unfairly broken up with a few weeks before Christmas. I couldn't face to go to work, I didn't want to go out, I just didn't want to do anything other than sit in my room. I was a sad blubbering mess. Sounds attractive doesn't it?! Anyway enough of that negativity! After some time I managed to get through my emotional breakdown and started to do stuff I enjoyed with my friends and plan things to look forward to. Honestly it made such huge difference. Just going out, getting dressed up and having fun made me realise how much time I had missed out on and how much I needed my friends. I genuinely started to find myself and feel so much better. I didn't need this awful boy to make me happy, I had my beautiful gorgeous bestfriends. It is so hard coming out of such a full on toxic relationship as you completely loose the person you are and it took me such a long time to find myself again but once you do, everything just gets better and better. I am now with the most amazing boy I've ever met and I can just be myself and thats all I ever ask for in a relationship (and flowers of course).
There are so many different types of friends we meet in our lives, such as those amazing girls you meet in the Slug and Lettuce toilets who you end up telling your whole life story too, adding them on instagram and never end up speaking again. Friends who you work with and never actually tend to do anything with outside work but they know you better than you know yourself. Or your very special main group of friends, who have seen you at your worst, fake tanned your back before a night out, been there through every relationship fail, hyped you up on insta even though they've seen your 11 other potential posts you sent to the group chat and took care of you when you had a few too many porn star martinis 🍸 but loves you unconditionally anyway. These are the friends I live for!😍
I'll be honest, I've always struggled with friends growing up and over the past years, I never felt I fit in and found it hard to trust people. I'd always try and put all my effort into making them feel special but in some cases I never got the same energy back. In school I found it so much easier to be friends with lads as there wasn't all the bitchiness and drama. However, I've now got a really strong solid little group of friends who I love to pieces. I can honestly say they are like my sisters. We've had the occasional ups and downs as any group of friends would (usually involving a boy), but I couldn't ask for better supportive friends.
As women it has such a huge positive impact to have someone to talk to, who understands emotions and feelings. Yes, men are great but when it comes to sharing female issues and wanting a girly chat, men aren't really who you need to go to. Most of the time they don't understand and you're better off going to your girlfriends. Girls understand girls! We understand how hard it is being a girl, we understand this array of forever flowing emotions we get. As friends we understand how important is it to support each other and look out for each other with no judgement or gossip, you just can't put a price on friendship!
I think it is hard in this day an age to have friends or to keep friends, I see and hear so much negativity surrounding what other people are doing or what they look like or who they're with. For some reason people like to put other people down to make themselves feel better, I've been a victim of this and it the most unkind thing I've dealt with, but in that situation you have to rise above it and not react. That way you avoid drama and you don't lower yourself to their level. Just keep yourself to yourself and focus on the positive things you have in life. Most of the time these people are just jealous and I'll tell you now, JEALOUSY IS NOT A GOOD LOOK ON SOME PEOPLE
I saw this picture from a page out of a Roald Dahl book, The Twits and put it on my instagram story not long ago. It made me smile and I just loved it as it just seems so true and its exactly what we as society need to go by.
I will admit I'm no angel, but I've been working hard over the past year or so to better myself. For me, it's a case of you don't know what people are going through behind closed doors, so it will go a long way to be nice. Like I said though it is very hard as people like to paint a perception of you before meeting you and assume you're not a nice person just from what other people have told them. I feel this might be the case for me and for many other people! Most of the time I'm just quite shy, if I don't really know someone, I go quiet and for those who know me, know that I get extremely awkward. I can't even order a McDonalds properly without messing up, I have to practice a millions times in my head before ordering and I still seem to mess it up!😂 ( I also can't even go to the shops on my own but that's because I'm an anxious mess). However, once I get to know someone and I get good vibes then I'm fine. I like to think I'm pretty easy going and can get on with anyone to be honest!
I am so thankful and grateful for the friends I have and had. We've made the best memories and I'm so excited for the future and what's to come! There are friends I wish I still had but as you get older you do seem to drift apart unfortunately and that's life sometimes, but you can alway make new friends everyday, even if it is in the Slug and Lettuce toilets. Or you can try and rekindled old friendships, there's no harm in trying. But it is always so important to be kind!
Lots of love,